Welcome to Consent: How to Say No, When to Say Yes, and How to Be the Boss of Yo

Description: Welcome to Consent by Yumi Stynes, Dr. Melissa Kang, Jenny Latham Every person is the boss of their own body! This lively guide—another engaging and essential resource from the creators of Welcome to Your Period!—digs deep into all aspects of consent. Understanding consent is important for people with all kinds of bodies, in all kinds of circumstances—from getting a haircut or letting the doctor check your blood pressure to hugging a friend, picking up a child, or kissing someone. After all, consent isnt always communicated with a clear "Yes, you can!" or "No, you cant!" This guide breaks down myriad situations involving consent and bodily autonomy, including navigating new or changing feelings, recognizing power imbalances, staying safe in online spaces, and keeping relationships mutually comfortable. Through relatable illustrations, clear explanations, and real-life examples, readers will learn how to actively listen and observe, set boundaries, and speak up for themselves and others. Experts Yumi Stynes and Dr. Melissa Kang approach this crucial topic with passion, awareness, and empathy. FORMAT Hardcover LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Author Biography Yumi Stynes is a TV and radio presenter and the coauthor of Welcome to Your Period! Shes currently the host of Ladies, We Need to Talk, an award-winning podcast that explores tricky topics and taboos about womens health. She is a second-generation Japanese-Australian and lives in Australia.Dr. Melissa Kang is the longest-serving expert behind the popular Australian advice column "Dolly Doctor" and the coauthor of Welcome to Your Period! She is a practicing medical doctor for marginalized young people, specializing in adolescent sexuality and health, and has academic roles at two universities. She is a fifth-generation Malaysian-Chinese-Anglo-Australian and lives in Australia.Jenny Latham is an illustrator who has a passion for illustrating real people and spreading body positivity. She loves empowering people with her work and hopes it puts a smile on their faces. She lives in the UK. Review A fierce, funny, celebratory and extremely supportive young peoples guide to saying no, saying yes and being the boss of your body. . . . the authors make clear from the get-go that theres a lot more nuance and complexity to consent than meets the eye. . . Lucky is the young person who consents to read this book. . . . This absolutely necessary guide to consent explores with candor and humor the nuances of verbal and body language in navigating all kinds of relationships and situations.—Shelf Awareness (starred review)This handbook provides opportunities to build confidence and bolster personal autonomy. . . thorough and empowering. . . An informative and comprehensive guide to giving and getting consent.—Kirkus ReviewsWritten with humor and loaded with examples drawn from real-life situations, readers will learn how to make observations and interpret signals from other people and develop the confidence to speak up when its necessary. . . . Easy to read, this book is packed with good information and examples from real people. Health classes would benefit from this book, as well as counselor-led small group sessions.—School Library ConnectionUpbeat text, cheerful illustrations, and entertaining graphics convey body-affirmative messages, reminding young adults that they are the bosses of their own bodies, and they get to determine physical, social, and emotional boundaries of touching, hearing, seeing, and being seen. . . . an approachable and accessible guide for teens.—Booklist Excerpt from Book THE GOLDEN RULES OF CONSENT Consent can be very simple: its an agreement between people, or permission for something to happen. "Yes, you can borrow my T-shirt!" you say to a friend. That sounds pretty straightforward, right? But what if you didnt know that your friend was planning to take your T-shirt to summer camp--dirty, gross summer camp? What if you said your brother could borrow it that one time, but now he thinks its OK to borrow your T-shirt anytime --without asking first? And wait, what if the person asking is a teacher ? Consent is about more than just saying yes or no. So here are some golden rules about consent --using a T-shirt as an example--that are good for keeps! Consent needs to be COMMUNICATED Youve got to say it, to the best of your ability. Communicate! "Yes, you can borrow my T-shirt!" Out loud is best, with a clear yes or no, but there are also other ways to make yourself clear. Consent needs to be SPECIFIC You cant consent unless you know what youre consenting to . "Yes, you can borrow my T-shirt tomorrow" doesnt mean youre lending it forever. If you didnt know about the dirty summer camp, then you didnt have enough information to fully consent. And saying yes doesnt mean youre lending your favorite pair of shorts at the same time. Unless you specifically say so! Consent can CHANGE You can change your mind! And it doesnt matter why you change your mind--you might have no reason, you might get new information (like theyre taking it mud-wrestling--noooo!), or you might see your friend treating your T-shirt in a way you dont like. And even if you agreed to lend your T-shirt once, you can still change your mind. Actually, no! Consent should be ENTHUSIASTIC and FREELY GIVEN I suppose so . . . You should feel happy and comfortable lending someone your T-shirt, and not like youve been coerced or tricked into doing it against your will. You cant give consent when youre half-asleep, for example! If youre clutching your T-shirt to your chest with big scared eyes and shaking your head while saying yes in a tiny voice, then your consent has not been enthusiastically or freely given. POWER matters Well go into this more on page 96, but its much harder to give real consent if the person wanting to borrow your T-shirt is in a position of authority over you--whether thats official authority (like a teacher, doctor, or police officer) or social authority (the most popular person in your class). Ideally they would recognize that their position makes it harder for you to give real consent, but sometimes they wont. So you need to know how to protect yourself--and your T-shirt--in a situation like this! Consent can be easy . . . or not Consent happens in everyday situations where you might not even think about it--like when a friend suggests you both go hang out at their house after school and you agree. Or--yes!--when someone is borrowing a T-shirt. But at other times, it can be more stressful, like: "Ooooh. They want my consent for a kiss. This feels so serious." Or "Eek! I dont know how to say no to this! I need to withhold consent." Sometimes it will feel weird to be so up-front about consent, especially if a situation is unfamiliar or new. But that doesnt mean you have to do whatever is asked of you. Sometimes your body gives out signals that things feel weird. You might breathe a bit faster or have a tiny, uncomfortable knot in your stomach. This book will help you learn to pay attention to those signals, and trust in them--because theyre telling you something important! Sticking up for yourself is important, too. So well help you learn to step through the weird feelings and connect with your true wants and needs. Well talk a lot more about listening to that inner voice and looking out for those signs. Remember, when it comes to your own body, you are always in charge. Consent is a two-way street Sometimes youre the one asking to borrow a T-shirt and other times youre the one lending it. The rules are the same regardless! WHATS AWESOME ABOUT CONSENT? The best thing about making an effort to discuss consent with someone is that you both know whats going on! You leave the guesswork behind. If you are clear about what youre allowing someone to do--or what theyre allowing you to do--then no one has to wonder anymore. You ask. And they answer! They ask. And you answer! When you say yes--or someone says yes to you--it should feel good. It means you both want to share an experience, experiment together, or do something fun together. It means you know for sure the other person is into the same thing you are--whether its ordering hot fries with gravy or kissing! "When its right, you just kind of feel warm and comforted." Mel Kettle "Its kind of like driving. You never want to be in autopilot mode. You want to be in active mode--looking for those tells. Actively asking if that person is comfortable." Luke, 17 Sometimes no is even more beautiful than yes, even though we tend to think we should always be aiming to hear a yes answer. No --or nonconsent--is beautiful because it means the person communicating this has shown you where their boundaries are. They have done it in such a clear way that they trust you can understand and accept their refusal. By saying no, they have created an understanding between you that maybe wasnt there before. "I respect it when people offer to help and also are respectful of my choice to decline their offer of help. The key here is to offer the disabled person a choice instead of telling them you are doing it." Nicole Lee "Its one thing to ask a question and then act like either answer to the question [yes or no] would be OK--its another thing to be able to enthusiastically hear the word no. We dont lean into rejection very often." Nevo Zisin Details ISBN1536226173 Author Jenny Latham Short Title Welcome to Consent Pages 224 Audience Age 10-14 Language English Year 2023 Illustrator Jenny Latham ISBN-10 1536226173 ISBN-13 9781536226171 Format Hardcover Subtitle How to Say No, When to Say Yes, and How to Be the Boss of Your Body Publisher Candlewick Press,U.S. Publication Date 2023-03-28 Imprint Walker Books US Country of Publication United States AU Release Date 2023-03-28 NZ Release Date 2023-03-28 US Release Date 2023-03-28 UK Release Date 2023-03-28 Series Welcome to Your Body Series Number 2 Audience Children / Juvenile We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! TheNile_Item_ID:141744797;

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