Halving It All: How Equally Shared Parenting Works by Francine M. Deutsch (Engli

Description: Halving It All by Francine M. Deutsch The best way to have a full family life and a career is to "halve it all." Thats the message of this book, based on interviews with a wide range of couples. Deutsch is skeptical of the story of inequality told since women found themselves working a second shift at home. Equality based on shared parenting is possible and is emerging all around us. FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description The best way to have it all--both a full family life and a career--is to halve it all. Thats the message of Francine Deutschs refreshing and humane book, based on extensive interviews with a wide range of couples. Deutsch casts a skeptical eye on the grim story of inequality that has been told since women found themselves working a second shift at home. She brings good news: equality based on shared parenting is possible, and it is emerging all around us. Some white-collar fathers achieve as well as talk about equality, and some blue-collar parents work alternate shifts to ensure that one parent can always be with the children.Using vivid quotations from her interviews, Deutsch tells the story of couples who share parenting equally, and some who dont. The differences between the groups are not in politics, education, or class, but in the way they negotiate the large and small issues--from whose paid job is "important" to who applies the sunscreen. With the majority of mothers in the workforce, parents today have to find ways of sharing the work at home. Rigid ideas of "good mothers" and "good fathers," Deutsch argues, can be transformed into a more flexible reality: the good parent.Halving It All takes the discussion beyond shrill ideological arguments about working mothers and absent fathers. Deutsch shows how, with the best of intentions, people perpetuate inequalities and injustices on the home front, but also, and more important, how they can devise more equal arrangements, out of explicit principles, or simply out of fairness and love. Author Biography Francine M. Deutsch is Professor of Psychology at Mt. Holyoke College. Table of Contents Why not equality?; creating equality at home; creating inequality at home; fighting over practice and principle; friends and foes; babies, breastfeeding, bonding and biology; career detours; why couples dont practice what they preach; the mother and Mr. Mom; constructing identities as parents and professionals; equality works; how I did the study. Review Deutsch interviewed 150 dual-earner couples to see how they divvied up child rearing. What she discovered is encouraging. Couples who want to share parenting fifty-fifty can find ways to do so...Deutsch offers a menu of new templates for parenting, forged by couples in her study who fought for equality and won unexpected rewards in the balance." -- Megan Rutherford * Time *Deutschs book is a clear and striking example of the importance of qualitative analysis. Through a series of extensive interviews with parents, Deutsch provides us with poignant and honest narratives of parents struggling with how to make equality happen in their daily lives. Each of the eleven chapters relies on interviews to both elucidate and clarify, but it is also these interviews that engage the reader from start to end and allow for a glimpse into the hearts and psyches of the parents. -- Patricia Owen-Smith * National Womens Studies Association Journal *Ten years after delving into the lives of 150 middle class and blue-collar couples, Deutsch has written a book that shatters some popular myths. Halving It All examines various ways couples in the study chose to handle work, parenting, and home. -- Diane E. Lewis * Boston Sunday Globe *Deutsch interviewed 150 dual-earner couples, and using real-people examples, shows how equality can exist without magic. By making rational choices, defining and dividing family work, and through a little unbiased negotiating, families can come together as a team instead of fighting it out in an imaginary ring. * New York Daily News *I wanted a book on marriage development. I wanted something that said: Yes, a guy who cant boil water can share child care. Now there finally is such a book, though its not one of those cheery tomes that says how wonderful it is to share domestic tasks with your husband. Halving It All is about being in the trenches with your spouse. Its about the day-in-day-out negotiation that goes into sharing child care, the challenges and benefits of such arrangements, and why so many couples who set out to parent equally fail to do so...Halving It All is a breath of fresh air and, for a snoop like myself who is interested in other peoples marriages, great reading. -- Jennifer Bingham Hull, * Salon Online *Using vivid quotations from interviews, Francine Deutschs new book Halving it All tells how many couples of all economic backgrounds and political viewpoints have found ways to divide household labor equally. -- Carolyn Krouse * Mount Holyoke Alumnae Quarterly *Deutschs book is an interesting, detailed analysis of couples who share work and family responsibilities, the troubles they encounter in reaching and maintaining this balance, and the steps theyve taken to overcome those troubles. Two particular strengths of this book are that Deutschs sample consists of people from many different occupational levels and backgrounds and, unlike many qualitative studies, her work includes an analysis of parents who do not equally share work and family responsibilities...This is a very well written, methodologically strong, yet readable analysis of a very real social issue today: equal parenting. -- L. Wolfer * Choice *Here we have a refreshing and stimulating change from the many books which bemoan the unequal division of labour in male and female parenting, breadwinning and home-managing. Deutsch, an American professor of psychology, decided to look on the brighter side, search out couples who had actively chosen equally shared parenting and struggled to make it work, and see what, if any, universal lessons could be learned from their varied experiences...Deutsch makes a strong case that we all have more choice than we think....If you have clients dissatisfied with the pattern their parenting takes but say, We cant change things because... (or if you have ever resigned yourself to the status quo with such a thought), this book could open up some liberating possibilities. -- Mica Rowanson * The Therapist *This well-constructed text is the result of an equally well-constructed research project funded by the National Science Foundation...Anyone interested in family life will be fascinated with the stories of how families work out the division of labor at home. -- Mary Katherine OConnor * Science Books and Films *If having it all--ie work and motherhood--has lost its appeal, take heart from Francine Deutschs book. Its about couples who share everything--from the school run to cleaning the hamsters cage. * Essentials *Even in these supposedly liberated times, very few couples--even when both work full-time outside the home--share equally in the care of their children. Deutsch set out to study those anomalous few who do so, in order to discover how our models for tomorrow make equal parenting (and by extension, equal cooking, cleaning and laundering) work...[Deutsch] makes some profound observations on modern family life and sounds a ringing cry for making changes. * Publishers Weekly *For many years, we treated the frantic juggling of dual-career couples as simply the consequence of their personal choices. But the realities of todays economy have made dual careers essential, not optional, for virtually all families. Halving it All is an essential guidebook for the world of shared parenting we all find ourselves in now. A must read. -- Pat Schroeder, United States Congresswoman, Colorado, 1972-1996A pioneering account of gender equality in America today--when it works, when it doesnt, and how to make the difference. Must reading for anyone who is trying to share parenting equally. I couldnt put it down. -- Juliet Schor, author of The Overworked AmericanDeutschs beautifully crafted book sweeps the reader along, making clear to expert and novice alike the findings of her important and rigorous study of current parenting. Her demonstration of how ordinary mothers and fathers can and do share equally their parenting duties is bound to exert a profound influence on conversations about childcare and about gender relations throughout the classrooms, the living rooms, and the boardrooms of contemporary America. -- Faye J. Crosby, Professor of Psychology, University of California, Santa Cruz, author of Juggling: The Unexpected Advantages of Balancing Career and Home for Women and Their Families Kirkus US Review The cheerful pun of the title is one of the liveliest moments in a tangled scrutiny of mothers and fathers who share parenting equally. This study of dual-earner couples with children was funded by the National Science Foundation in order to explore if, in fact, it was possible for working women to split equally with their partners the notorious "second shift" - the responsibility for childcare and household chores that comes after a full day at work. Deutsch (Psychology/Mt. Holyoke Coll.) and her team initially interviewed 429 couples and ended up with 44 who met the criteria for parents who shared equally (50-50) or nearly equally (60-40), plus a group of couples who worked alternating shifts and a third group whose division of labor was unequal (75-25) with the burden usually falling on the mother. Most of the couples were white, educated, and middle class; the alternating shift group fell into the blue-collar category. The emphasis was not on who did the dishes or even on equal time with the children, but on whether the responsibility was truly divided. That includes the "mental work" of managing the routine, like keeping track of childrens schedules or noticing that baby needs new shoes. It will come as no surprise that Deutsch found breaking out of traditional gender roles was extremely difficult for her subjects. She tries to tease out the issues involved, including the demands of biology (breast feeding, for instance), mens reluctance to take on a "feminine" role, womens reluctance to give up the status of mother, the lack of role models. Jobs are a stumbling block. "Careers are [still] designed for men" who have wives at home to support them, says Deutsch. Equal parenting demands "family careers," with shorter hours, more flexibility for family emergencies and plenty of compromise by both parents regarding ambition and direction. A motley profusion of anecdotes and quotes offers little support for the authors lame if hopeful conclusion: "Why not equality?" (Kirkus Reviews) Review Quote Using vivid quotations from interviews, Francine Deutschs new book Halving it All tells how many couples of all economic backgrounds and political viewpoints have found ways to divide household labor equally. Details ISBN0674002091 Author Francine M. Deutsch Pages 336 Publisher Harvard University Press Language English ISBN-10 0674002091 ISBN-13 9780674002098 Media Book Format Paperback DEWEY 649.1 Imprint Harvard University Press Subtitle How Equally Shared Parenting Works Place of Publication Cambridge, Mass Country of Publication United States Edition New edition Short Title HALVING IT ALL REV/E Edition Description Revised DOI 10.1604/9780674002098 Illustrations none UK Release Date 1999-01-01 AU Release Date 1999-01-01 NZ Release Date 1999-01-01 Audience Undergraduate Year 2000 Publication Date 2000-04-07 US Release Date 2000-04-07 We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. 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