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Description: Fair Play: Reese's Book Club by Eve Rodsky The author--tapped by Reese Witherspoons Hello Sunshine as the expert on this topic for a new generation of women--offers a revolutionary, real-world solution to the problem of unpaid, invisible work that women have shouldered for too long. too long. FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A REESES BOOK CLUB PICK Tired, stressed, and in need of more help from your partner? Imagine running your household (and life!) in a new way...It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family—and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was...underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasnt enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it.The result is Fair Play: a time- and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up domestic responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With 4 easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a series of conversation starters for you and your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize whats important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore, from laundry to homework to dinner."Winning" this game means rebalancing your home life, reigniting your relationship with your significant other, and reclaiming your Unicorn Space—the time to develop the skills and passions that keep you interested and interesting. Stop drowning in to-dos and lose some of that invisible workload thats pulling you down. Are you ready to try Fair Play? Lets deal you in. Author Biography Eve Rodsky received her BA from the University of Michigan, and her JD from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise families and charitable foundations on best practices. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home--a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children. Fair Play is her first book. Review One of Forbes Best Books of 2020"A hands-on strategy to divide tasks and achieve household harmony."—Real Simple"[An] impressive debut...Couples searching for ways to better manage their families and achieve a balance of domestic work will benefit from Rodskys actionable strategy."—Publishers Weekly"Rodskys system, which uses task cards divided between partners, is potentially revolutionary and [Fair Play] offers the right combination of venting and commiserating balanced by practical solutions and manageable approaches to tough conversations...poised to become a book-club favorite."—Booklist"Watch out for Eve Rodsky. Reese Witherspoons media company, Hello Sunshine, has annointed her as the Marie Kondo of relationships, and we think they might be on to something."—BookPage"A must read for every busy woman out there."—PopSugars Best Books of Fall "Im so impressed with the Fair Play handbook. Not only did Eve break down every task that a couple is responsible for, but she managed to create a system where dividing those tasks is fun, insightful and gratifying. Her approach is filled with love, humor, wisdom and the idea that if we can work together and acknowledge each others strengths and weaknesses, we can build better, stronger, and longer lasting relationships."—Reese Witherspoon "Fair Play is a game-changing guide to reclaiming more time in our lives by dividing domestic work in a deceptively simple new way. As Eve Rodsky explains, the key is for each partner to take on the entirety of each task on their to-do list—from conception to planning to execution—to avoid the mental load falling on women and the conflicts that typically arise in a relationship. The Fair Play system of dealing virtual cards to share the work it takes to run a household is revolutionary and can help you succeed and truly thrive in all aspects of your life!"—Arianna Huffington, Founder & CEO, Thrive Global "There are three people in every busy relationship: Person A, Person B, and the system that governs them. When things feel overwhelming, most people point at themselves or their partner to explain it, but more often than not the system itself is the problem. This is brilliantly illustrated in Fair Play, where Eve Rodsky makes the existing system visible and provides a clear path to build a new one that enables readers to focus on what their family values most."—Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism "If your family is struggling to achieve a happy division of household labor, read this book. Fair Play offers practical tools for maximizing peace and minimizing resentment—while freeing up all parties to pursue their best lives."—Laura Vanderkam, author of I Know How She Does It and Juliets School of Possibilities"Being a parent is hard; maintaining a happy marriage when children are young is even harder. Rodsky comes to the rescue for these rocky years! Fair Play is what every busy parent needs to shed resentment, move beyond blame, and reconnect with each other. By easing the home burdens and working collaboratively, parents will find the key to a happier marriage and more family joy."—Tovah Klein, PhD, director of the Barnard Center for Toddler Development and author of How Toddlers Thrive "Eve Rodsky tackles the division of housework – a major source of conflict within many marriages—with a refreshingly clear, workable set of solutions that both partners can embrace."—Darby Saxbe, PhD, associate professor of psychology, University of Southern California "Eve Rodsky has created a new language and fresh conversation around the topic of doing it all, stressing out and losing ourselves and relationships in the process. Every page of this book has a take-away, a new idea of approaching a topic that has plagued parents for decades and has needed a plan."—Sheryl Ziegler, MD, author of Mommy Burnout"Fair Play gives us permission to create our own values that introduce equity into our households, creating an equitable shift in domestic workload, and setting examples for our children: that is the revolution. Imagine what could be different about you, your relationships and the world, if we collectively decided to play fair."—Alexis Jemal, JD, LCSW, assistant professor, Silberman School of Social Work, Hunter College "I just want to thank Eve Rodsky, brave woman, for taking on the mental load…of solving the mental load. Fair Play isnt just a great idea…its going to change cultural norms so that women can have equity at home and equality in the workplace. Yes, better division of laundry can help solve the pay gap!"—Lauren Brody, author of The Fifth Trimester Review Quote "A hands-on strategy to divide tasks and achieve household harmony." -- Real Simple "[An] impressive debut...Couples searching for ways to better manage their families and achieve a balance of domestic work will benefit from Rodskys actionable strategy." -- Publishers Weekly "Rodskys system, which uses task cards divided between partners, is potentially revolutionary and [ Fair Play ] offers the right combination of venting and commiserating balanced by practical solutions and manageable approaches to tough conversations...poised to become a book-club favorite." -- Booklist "Watch out for Eve Rodsky. Reese Witherspoons media company, Hello Sunshine, has annointed her as the Marie Kondo of relationships, and we think they might be on to something." -- BookPage "A must read for every busy woman out there." -- PopSugar s Best Books of Fall "Im so impressed with the Fair Play handbook. Not only did Eve break down every task that a couple is responsible for, but she managed to create a system where dividing those tasks is fun, insightful and gratifying. Her approach is filled with love, humor, wisdom and the idea that if we can work together and acknowledge each others strengths and weaknesses, we can build better, stronger, and longer lasting relationships." --Reese Witherspoon " Fair Play is a game-changing guide to reclaiming more time in our lives by dividing domestic work in a deceptively simple new way. As Eve Rodsky explains, the key is for each partner to take on the entirety of each task on their to-do list--from conception to planning to execution--to avoid the mental load falling on women and the conflicts that typically arise in a relationship. The Fair Play system of dealing virtual cards to share the work it takes to run a household is revolutionary and can help you succeed and truly thrive in all aspects of your life!" --Arianna Huffington, Founder & CEO, Thrive Global "There are three people in every busy relationship: Person A, Person B, and the system that governs them. When things feel overwhelming, most people point at themselves or their partner to explain it, but more often than not the system itself is the problem. This is brilliantly illustrated in Fair Play , where Eve Rodsky makes the existing system visible and provides a clear path to build a new one that enables readers to focus on what their family values most." --Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism "If your family is struggling to achieve a happy division of household labor, read this book. Fair Play offers practical tools for maximizing peace and minimizing resentment--while freeing up all parties to pursue their best lives." --Laura Vanderkam, author of I Know How She Does It and Juliets School of Possibilities "Being a parent is hard; maintaining a happy marriage when children are young is even harder. Rodsky comes to the rescue for these rocky years! Fair Play is what every busy parent needs to shed resentment, move beyond blame, and reconnect with each other. By easing the home burdens and working collaboratively, parents will find the key to a happier marriage and more family joy." --Tovah Klein, PhD, director of the Barnard Center for Toddler Development and author of How Toddlers Thrive "Eve Rodsky tackles the division of housework - a major source of conflict within many marriages--with a refreshingly clear, workable set of solutions that both partners can embrace." --Darby Saxbe, PhD, associate professor of psychology, University of Southern California "Eve Rodsky has created a new language and fresh conversation around the topic of doing it all, stressing out and losing ourselves and relationships in the process. Every page of this book has a take-away, a new idea of approaching a topic that has plagued parents for decades and has needed a plan." --Sheryl Ziegler, MD, author of Mommy Burnout " Fair Play gives us permission to create our own values that introduce equity into our households, creating an equitable shift in domestic workload, and setting examples for our children: that is the revolution. Imagine what could be different about you, your relationships and the world, if we collectively decided to play fair." --Alexis Jemal, JD, LCSW, assistant professor, Silberman School of Social Work, Hunter College "I just want to thank Eve Rodsky, brave woman, for taking on the mental load...of solving the mental load. Fair Play isnt just a great idea...its going to change cultural norms so that women can have equity at home and equality in the workplace. Yes, better division of laundry can help solve the pay gap!" --Lauren Brody, author of The Fifth Trimester Excerpt from Book 1. The Curse of the She-Fault Parent I was ready to fold. Consider: The Case of the Missing Blueberries > Im surprised you didnt get blueberries. I stared at my husbands text and imagined him speaking these words in what I call his "porn voice"-breathless, like he gets when hes frustrated or overwhelmed. Instantly defensive, I thought: Um, why cant you get the blueberries? Id taken the afternoon "off" in order to spend time with my oldest, who was sorely in need of some mommy reconnection time in the wake of the recent arrival of his new baby brother. After going over my long list of instructions for the sitter (twice), I hustled out the front door to pick Zach up from school-all while balancing the snacks Id just packed, a bag forgotten by the prior days playmate, a FedEx package to be dropped off, a brand-new already-too-small pair of childrens shoes to be returned, and a client contract that needed a markup before tomorrow morning. I was just barely holding it together when my husbands "blueberry text" arrived, and the tears came so fast and furious I had to pull over to the side of the road. How had it happened that Id gone from successfully managing an entire department at work to failing to manage a grocery list for my family? And what self-respecting woman cries over an item forgotten at the market? And, just as alarming: Would a container of off-season blueberries serve as the harbinger to the end of my marriage? I wiped away the mascara streaks beneath my eyes and thought: This is not how I envisioned my life-the fulfiller of my familys smoothie needs. Hold up. Rewind. How I Got Here My mom and dad divorced when I was three and she was pregnant with my brother. Mom opted to forgo alimony to avoid acrimony and raised my brother and me in a one-parent home while working full-time as a professor of social work in New York City. Not a high-paying job, but she made it work for our family. Or so I thought until the first eviction notice was slipped under our apartment door. Mom had taught classes all day, picked my brother and me up from school, took us to the dentist uptown, dropped us back at home with a sitter downtown, and then . . . went back to work. When I saw the envelope on the floor, I opened it, read the letter inside, and then waited up late for Mom to come home. When she finally walked through the door, I broke the news to her that we no longer would have a place to live. I was eight years old. Mom assured me that shed simply forgotten to pay our rent, and she would mail a check first thing in the morning. She followed through on her promise and we didnt have to move, but from that moment on I understood how hard life was for my mom because she carried 100 percent of the burden at home. Throughout my formative years and on too many occasions to count, I remember looking at her at the end of another long, exhausting day-my overworked super mom who tried to do it all-and thinking: That will never be me. When I grow up, I will have a true partner in life. Though it wasnt modeled for me, I became determined to build and sustain a 50/50 partnership one day. I worked hard and got myself through college and then law school, when I met the man who would become my partner. My best friend had set us up. Zoe said about Seth: "Hes Jewish and obsessed with hip hop." I instantly flashed back to when Id surprised guests with a choreographed dance to Slick Ricks "Childrens Story" at my bat mitzvah. I had to meet this guy. I was a first-year associate at a law firm in New York City, which meant logging long hours, so for our first date Seth and I agreed to meet at a late-night bar in Union Square. But at 9:30 p.m., I received a client call that kept me on the line for nearly two hours. By the time I arrived at the bar, it was almost midnight and Seth was . . . still there. One of Seths friends had waited with him until I showed up. Seth told me later what his friend had said when I walked through the door: "She was worth the wait." And so was Seth. I liked him right away. There was just one snag to our budding romance: Seth lived in Los Angeles, and I had just taken the New York Bar Exam. We did a cross-country courtship for a year, and on our anniversary, I presented him with The Best of 2003, every single email that wed written to each other since the night wed met. There were more than 600 pages of email exchanges that Id printed out in the basement of my law firm and bound into a deep red four-volume book set. Seth was touched by my sentimentality (and equally impressed by my meticulous organizational skills). I think we both knew then that this was the real thing. Within the year, I took on the arduous endeavor of studying for and passing the California Bar and uprooted to Los Angeles. And then, when Seths growing business required an East Coast office, we packed up and moved back to New York as a newly engaged couple. (Getting him back home was my secret plan!) Our first apartment across from the Midtown tunnel was cramped and always loud, but we didnt care. We were in love, true collaborators in the home, and champions of each others careers. As a young couple, our dynamic felt equitable, a reciprocal partnership of equals. In between loads of laundry, I marked up his operating agreements as his entertainment agency expanded, and Seth gave me business pointers while he unloaded groceries. He was my right-hand man as I worked my way up the ladder to my dream job-using my legal training, organizational management skills, and mediation background to work with individuals and companies to structure philanthropic organizations. In laymans terms, I advised the wealthy on how to give away tons of money to nonprofits that served the greater good. We were both doing work that we felt proud of, and together we crushed it every step of the way. Cut to married with children-everything changed. The She-Fault Parent I became the default parent-or more aptly, the she-fault parent-and as such, the only thing I was crushing were peas for my baby. To be fair, Seth eagerly jumped in to diaper change, bottle-feed, and provide middle-of-the-night comfort to his firstborn. But beyond forming this early, critical connection with his son, Seth would frequently say about our new family dynamic: "Theres not a lot for me to do." While my husband is no Neanderthal, he was echoing what a good cave buddy had promised him during my pregnancy: "Relax. Dads dont really do anything for the first six months. Its more of a mom thing." Like many breadwinner-working fathers, Seth returned to work just one week after Zach was born. Id been granted three months of maternity leave to "stay home" (as if that term encompasses all that new parents do every day). Looking back, I hadnt anticipated the endless emotional, mental, and physical effort parenthood would require. My cousin Jessica, who lived a quick cab ride uptown and who was also pregnant at the same time, hadnt seen what was coming either. In her third trimester, shed signed us up for a knitting class because "well probably get bored on maternity leave." Bored, yes. Idle, no. I had more than enough to keep my hands occupied without ever picking up a knitting needle or a ball of yarn. Because Seth and I hadnt pre-negotiated how to share in the domestic workload before Zach came along, it defaulted to me. Hed leave for work in the office and Id spend the next eight hours boiling bottles, doing dishes, folding laundry, restocking the nursery, running to the grocery store, picking up prescriptions, preparing meals, tidying up, and entertaining and attending to my little one. In his defense, after returning home from the office Seth would offer, "How can I help?" but I was unable to articulate what I needed. Id typically reply with a sputter: "I dont know. Just pick something!" I was overtired and quickly became overextended. I also felt isolated and alone. "My public life is so private now," I confided to Jessica one afternoon at the playground. "Weve become single married women," she offered, quoting a term coined by Dr. Sherry L. Blake that describes women in committed relationships who singularly bear the lionesss share of family responsibilities. Seth could see that I was struggling in my new role, but he also felt constantly nagged. He made efforts to extend a hand but ultimately retreated because "I cant do anything right." The bickering between us became part of our new family routine, and when I considered returning to work, the idea of juggling a demanding office job with the ever-expanding demands of domestic life seemed impossible. One afternoon, after an office meeting to discuss my return, I "took ten" in the company stairwell to quietly pump breast milk into plastic bags. As I sat with my back against the wall, I thought: Does this really count as a non-bathroom lactation space? And more important, How the hell am I going to balance it all? I proposed to my employer that I work full-time, but from home one day a week. That was declined. I offered to work a four-day week for less salary. They didnt go for that either. In the end, I walked away from my dream job to become an independent ("1099") consultant, a move I dont regret (but Details ISBN0525541942 Author Eve Rodsky Short Title Fair Play Language English Year 2021 ISBN-10 0525541942 ISBN-13 9780525541943 Format Paperback Country of Publication United States AU Release Date 2021-01-05 NZ Release Date 2021-01-05 US Release Date 2021-01-05 UK Release Date 1900-01-01 Pages 384 Publisher Penguin Putnam Inc Publication Date 2021-01-05 Imprint G P Putnams Sons DEWEY 650.1082 Audience General Subtitle A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! TheNile_Item_ID:130925974;

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